Unless explicitly requested, in 2022 and beyond, both partners should be involved in planning their wedding.
Traditionally, and typically, the bulk of wedding planning is often taken care of by one person, and not the couple. Thankfully, this trend is starting to waiver, as more and more couples are now looking to create a celebration that represents both parties. A shift that is long overdue, and one we couldn’t be happier to see.
This change in dynamic may well be welcome news to the modern couple. But for the average groom, who considers their responsibilities to be turning up, looking smart and making a toast – this can be a bitter pill to swallow. However, assigning tasks and responsibilities to each other is the most successful way to plan a wedding, as it’ll speed up the process and fairly share the load.
In this post, we’ll share how you can easily split the responsibilities of planning a wedding between the two of you, and successfully create a big day you can both me proud of.
How to Split Wedding Planning Responsibilities
Make a List of Strengths
We know, more lists, but this list is vital if you are to work out how best to tackle wedding planning together. But before you pick up the pen, you must talk to each other openly about how you would like the wedding to look. And how you envisage your role in the planning process. Only once you’ve been honest with each other can you begin to divvy up tasks with any certainty.
When you feel like you’re in a good place, discuss what you feel each other’s strengths are. Your positive attributes may not seem obvious to you, but your partner definitely knows what you are good, and not so good at! So talk to each other, and suggest items you honestly believe your other half could take care of.
Discuss Priorities
Knowing when to win, and when to let something go, is almost the golden rule of marriage. And it certainly applies to wedding planning. Prioritization is what’s needed if you want to please both parties, and reduce stress. If traditional wedding rituals and ceremonies are not essential to either of you, then skip them altogether and prioritise on the things you both want, such as entertainment, maybe.
Consider what your three most important things are for the wedding, and share them with each. Elements such as, keeping within budget, food, or live music, for example.
Compare Responsibilities & Share
Once you have some form of responsibility list in place, compare each other’s objectively, and see if you can take on something from your partner. Within a typical heterosexual wedding, the groom, and his groomsmen tend to have less responsibility on the day. Especially, in the morning. Therefore, maybe it could be the job of the groom to make sure that every supplier is present and ticked off. While also checking over the reception spaces to make sure everything is, or will be, in place.
Don’t Be Afraid to Let Go of Responsibilities
It may well be that during this process you find that you’re both better at managing the project from afar, rather than micromanaging each individual element. If you're in Southern California, you can get in touch with a wedding planner San Diego company.
This isn’t to say you shouldn’t be involved in your own wedding, more that it’s not an easy task, especially when you have other responsibilities. Jobs, kids and life in general can all get in the way of wedding planning, and stop it from being the fun task it should be. If you sense that this is happening, speak to your partner, and talk about relieving certain pressures from yours, or both your responsibility lists.
