One partner’s lack of interest in sex can leave the other partner feeling depressed, underappreciated, or resentful. To overcome sexual issues, you need to start with the reasons that led to the “dead bedroom”, a term social media coined, and why one partner’s desire for the other is greater than the opposite. Of course, you need to take steps to correct any absence of sexuality that is provoked by health conditions. We’ll start with the most common reasons for sex issues. 

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Gender-specific Issues 

For women, hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) is by far the most common sexual problem. This dysfunction is characterized by long-term lack of desire or interest in bedroom intimacy. The situation gets more complicated with age sometimes. Women who have gone through menopause lose interest in lovemaking if they have pain due to VVA (vulvovaginal atrophy), which is caused by loss of estrogen. This loss has thinning of the vaginal tissues as a consequence among others. ED (erectile dysfunction) ultimately results in a long-term adverse effect on sexual performance and interest. You may want to look into finding the best male enhancement pills.

Issues That Affect Both Men and Women 

Both men and women can be affected by certain medical conditions, leading to poor sexual function and loss of interest in sex. These include: 

• High blood pressure

• Side effects of medications

• Diabetes

• High cholesterol

• Alcohol addiction

• Heart disease

• Complications from smoking

Sheer Boredom

You don’t have to have a medical condition to lose interest in sex with a partner, so there’s no need to panic about it. Sometimes, it’s just because you’re bored. Naughty toys can help rekindle the flame. They don’t have to be for solo use! You can order a sex toy to surprise your partner or simply browse the store’s website together to choose something that’s right for both of you. While adding toys can seem scary at first – it is for some people who have no experience with them – they can be great tools to get your sex life to pick up as long as you don’t overthink things. You can also learn new techniques to give your partner a squirting orgasm.

Leave the Bedroom

Routine kills sex like nothing else. An easy way to break out of it is to choose another room for lovemaking. Make use of the other spaces in your home, or the car. Kitchen countertops can be exciting. You can also try the bathroom, especially if you have a bathtub (showers are slippery). 

Change up Foreplay

Foreplay gets you ready for enjoyment with your partner. It’s very important, especially for women. It’s far more than a prelude to sex. Try playing a game or giving each other an oil massage. Sex is as much physical as it is mental, so don’t think you have to be naked to get aroused. 

Get a Sex App 

If you’re both very busy, weeks and even months without sex can slip by unnoticed. Sex and/or period tracking apps like Clue and Nice Sex Tracker let you keep a sex calendar. If you notice contact becoming less frequent, there are tricks you can do to reverse the trend. Just don’t start harping to your partner about the dipping stats. 

Get Quality Lubricant 

Lubricant is among the most underappreciated, underrated aids. Not only does it reduce discomfort and friction; it also makes anal sex something you can enjoy. This means better sex and more intense orgasms for everyone involved. If you use silicone toys, don’t get silicone-based lube. Oil-based lube and condoms don’t always go hand in hand. With latex condoms, use water-based lube only. All oil-based products will damage latex. Make sure you double-check if your lubricant or your arousal oil is compatible with everything else being used in the bedroom.

Keep an open Mind 

Some people think “proper” sex is where you take at least two hours and have a comfortable bed to lie in. This definitely works very well for some. Other people can be very happy with quickies. They are something you shouldn’t be afraid of by any means. Sex can be just as fun without going on for hours and without being planned. If you usually do it at night, try doing it in the morning or vice versa. 

Play a Game

Sex doesn’t have to be spontaneous all the time either. You can make it part of an evening or weekend routine. Two fun games we can recommend are truth or dare and strip poker. You can touch each other during a game of truth or dare and set a timer for a certain interval before you get to doing the deed. Classic poker is where you remove a clothing item whenever you’re wrong. Creativity is key here.  

Benefits of sex and Intimacy 

Decline in sex doesn’t have to be the result of losing interest in spending quality time with a partner. According to a study by the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, almost 70% of men and 50% of women want to have more sex. It’s just not a priority for them due to stress, work, busy schedules, and being tired. What’s more, many people don’t feel comfortable talking about sex openly – with a physician, a partner, or even their friends. This contributes to sex-related concerns because you’re keeping your worries all pent up. Therefore, you miss out on the health benefits of intimacy and sex. 

During sex, our bodies release feel-good hormones like endorphins, which help minimize symptoms of depression and anxiety. Intimacy often leads to increased physical activity, which helps people sleep better, especially when they have an orgasm. Orgasms result in a release of prolactin, which makes people feel sleepier – in a good way, of course.

Orgasming and arousal increase oxytocin levels and reduce cortisol, a hormone related to stress. Researchers have established that having sex even just once a week can improve immune system functions and help keep you healthy. People who report having regular sex also report feeling healthier and better than those who don’t.  

Beyond Mere Gratification

According to the NHS, various forms of orgasms can help people relax in a way not unlike they would after meditating or exercising. Sex with penetration reduces stress and sexual arousal has been associated with numerous benefits for the cardiovascular system.